5 Things We Should All Stop Doing on Social Media
Yes, really - stop with it already!
To Whom It May (Not) Concern,
I’ve deactivated my Twitter account.
“Thank you, thank you.” *does a little twirl, followed by a curtsy*
And guess what!? Nope, bet you can’t guess what I’m about to say next … you better brace yourselves though!! Because … you may not believe it!
I didn’t announce it to my followers before doing it.
Ohhh, did I just hear a tut-tut!? What a rebel I must sound like. Haha!
Seriously though, I didn’t feel the need to tell everyone beforehand that I’m going to take a break. Why? There’s a plethora of reasons why, but mostly because I don’t need anyone’s approval or validation - nor their views (wanted or unwanted) - on my wanting to take a break.
And I understand that there’s probably some perspectives that I haven’t considered yet, but whyyy does everyone announce that they’re going to be taking a break from social media? (Okay, let’s not speak in absolutes … so for argument’s sake, let’s say, ‘almost everyone’ instead.)
Seriously though (yes, again!), I’m actually perplexed. And no, I’m not asking for a friend … I’m asking for myself! *inserts “Please Explain” in annoying Pauline Hanson voice*
If you haven’t guessed it already, this is one of my pet peeves on social media. One that turns me off following a person (as shallow as that sounds). One that might even get an unfollow. One that certainly makes me think that they’re extremely needy.
Eww. I think that’s what it is … it reeks of neediness!
So [for the sake of my sanity] can I please ask you all to stop announcing that you’re going to be taking a break. The world won’t end. Twitter won’t break. We get it - you’re taking a break. We understand. And you’re entitled to take a break. Without announcing it!
Plus, if we want to see if you’re okay, we’ll find a way to check in (the ones that care always do) or we’ll simply respect your privacy and await your arrival back someday soon. So please go ahead and enjoy said break as you intended - sans interruption from the peanut gallery.
Now, that takes me to my next gripe on social media. And yes, if you haven’t guessed it by now, I’m [clearly in a ho-hum mood] speaking from experience when it comes to most of these ‘do not continue to do on social media’ items. So please don’t take offence - that’s not my objective here! Besides, this is just my opinion … so each to their own groan.
Next up …
Can we please stop telling everyone how blessed we are?
We get it. Your highlight real is next to perfect. Your skin is perfect. You’ve got the sun shining from your Balenciaga bag, a pep in your carefully curated (more like 6,028,301 photos later) step, and a skittle rainbow follows you everywhere you go - aka your partner is in tow with nothing better to do but click your camera at your BECK AND CALL.
You’re living the dream. Kudos!
Now stop telling us because it sounds more like you’re trying to convince us … and if you have to state it (no less promote the bajeebies out of it), then it’s likely not true.
That’s right. Read it and weep, oh perfect ones. Blessed isn’t about who can brag to the most followers. Living a blessed life is actually living your life and not having to show it to others for approval.
Oops, did I say that!? Tut-tut!
Remember when you were little and you overstepped the mark and your parents would give you that warning, “Do that one more time and …”
Yes, well, remind me one more time to be kind and I’ll show you what my parents did if I tormented them with senseless crap. Or should I say a buzzword attached to a plethora of campaigns and conditioning tactics.
Okay, I understand that sounds harsh. Rude even. And I stand by it. Because who the Jekyll and Hyde do we all think we are to give such seldomly sage advice!?
Especially when we learned the basics of being kind all throughout primary school. So we actually know the logistics of being a decent human being and don’t need to be schooled on the subject. Thank you.
Besides, who in their Harry Potter mind is going to stand up and say enough is enough when all that seems to be acceptable these days is “kindness”.
No, really! Have you thought about the fact that you’re conditioning a society of wet lettuces … a society of people-pleasers.
So stop with it already. There’s a place and time for kindness. Of course! We get it. Kindness is the foundation to almost everyone I’ve met … except plenty of really awful people that I’ve had the displeasure of meeting along the way too. All of which, in hindsight *rolls eyes of course*, I wish I had of stopped being so kind to them before (and even after) they walked right over me and/or emotionally scarred and discarded me for life.
I’ve plenty of reasons to state that kindness isn’t always the answer, but I won’t waffle on my high horse (for much longer). So can we stop schooling people on kindness, please!?
And how about instead of jumping to judgment, we just let everyone be themselves … that way we can actually start calling people on their inappropriate behaviour as opposed to kindly obliging almost all of the time.
And by all means, if you have a bad moment, day, month - whatever it is, be a good human and circle back to own your shiz. Accountability will reward you with growth, and your life will flourish when you’re committed to self growth.
Don’t post where you are in real time.
This is dangerous. Especially for women. And while I’m at it, be super selective about who you put on your social media feed - aka, make sure that you’re not putting underaged children at risk from potential predators on open forums, please.
Earlier this year I had to hire security because my life was threatened by an extremely unsavoury character (you can read why here if you’re interested), and the first thing that I had to do was turn off my Location Services, along with all geo-tagging on social networks.
I then had to put all of my social media accounts on private while they were closely monitored. Plus my home was and still is closely monitored now (please smile for the cameras:)!)
Anyway, you get my drift, right? Hope so!
And last but not least …
Literally, what you had for breakfast! lunch! anddd dinner!
We get it. You love smashed avo with your mocha choca latté. And you love to tell us how awesome you are because you’re the 6,798th follower to go to the hip new place in town.
And yes, I’ve been there documenting my food, too. But I was being paid for it.
And let me tell you now that it sucked the life out of me. To the point of having to stand firm in my own Linda Evangelista way.
Besides … nobody needs to know what I’m ingesting on the regular. Nobody!
Especially when it’s all so damn contrived.
Do you really think that I ate all of those donuts in the image above? … Actually, I did (I love food - especially donuts!), but of course I didn’t eat them laying down.
So let’s stop hamming it up for the cameras, people - pun intended!
Unless it’s your job and you get paid for it. I guess.
Alrighty. If you’re still reading this far then stand up, extend one of your arms out in front of you (parallel to the ground with your palm facing up), now bend down at the elbow … and reach it over the top of that shoulder to give yourself a big pat on the back.
Tut-tut STOP that right now, please …
If you’ve learned anything at all from this post then I’d hope that it’s to not just follow the pack aimlessly. So don’t let me tell you what to do!
Unless - of course - you want to!
To summarise, the 5 things we should all stop doing on social media:
- Stop telling your followers that you’re thinking of taking a break. Actions speak louder than words. So get on with it - you’ve got this!
- Give the “blessed life” a vacay … because you’re so worth it.
- Nobody has to throw kindness around like confetti. If you have a bad moment or you need to be unkind, be true to you. And don’t beat yourself up about it. But by all means, circle back and own that shiz if you’ve genuinely done wrong by another. After all, accountability is the new kindness!
- Be selective with who you allow into your world. Especially on social media. You never know who’s prying eyes are up to no good these days. And believe me, not everyone is kind.
- Stop posting everything but your kitchen sink online. Please. I learned a valuable lesson with this recently when I posted a celebratory lunch and was reminded by someone that not everyone gets to eat a meal each day - let alone dine out. Instead, perhaps we could start contributing to our community in more selfless ways … that don’t need to be bragged about online.
Oh, and while we’re here (you didn’t think I was finished did you haha), this one is for extra measure:
Can fake ‘coaches’ stop up-selling to unsuspecting victims. Please and thank you!
Especially when y’all have no credentials and you’ve got no real interest in leadership … other than to scrape, claw and try to monetise/normalise your desperate climb to the top by taking advantage of the latest fad under the guise of your next level narcissism [devaluing the real leaders that have always had a genuine interest in improving the quality of life for others].
But if you must “boach”, how about focusing less on boasting and more on adding real value.
Try it, you never know - it might actually work. And who knows, we might end up progressing society to a new norm that isn’t so needy for the approval of others.
With love, kindness and respect - always!
Superconscious: of, relating to, or possessing the highest consciousness or a margin of consciousness above that within the ordinary range of attention; transcending human consciousness.